This article is on anger management. What this article will offer you?
This article will offer you unmatchable insights about anger and its origin. We’ll discuss a few things which trigger anger within a person.
I’ll not say that after reading this article you will never lose your temper. All I am saying is after reading this article you’ll have a better understanding of yourself, the dynamics of life, and of course about anger. A better understanding can certainly bring more peace and control in your life.
So let’s continue our discussion on anger management by throwing light on certain things which make people angry.
- Using anger as a means to control
There are a lot of people in this world who make anger a part of their personality so that they can get a certain amount of control over other people.
These people usually become like this because he/she had been disliking certain people‘s behavior or things that happened in their life.
We’ve shaped our societies in such a way that a lot of things are forced on people for no reason. For instance, there are a lot of statistics which prove that good grades are not equated to economic success but still children are forced to get good grades. If they fail to do so then they are made to feel like crap.
These people are generally the ones who have suffered the status quo big time. If this sounds similar to your story then you may ask- what I should do?
Is Revolution the answer?
If you have suffered the status quo then you might develop an urge to start a revolution and rip status quo completely.
If you’ll succeed in creating a big revolution then there are a lot of chances that the situation may become even worse than before. History of the world has proved this time in and time out.
So if you do not want any other person to suffer the same things which you have suffered then please do elaborate research on the topic with a cool mind before trying to start a revolution.
I’ll point a gun at you
If you do not wish to change anything in society, you just want to have some control in your life and to do so you use anger then you must understand certain dynamics of society.
You can either control someone by pointing a gun at them or you can win their hearts. No one likes to be at the receiving end of anger. Even you will not like it.
You are carrying on with this technique because you have not pushed it to a certain limit. If you will push beyond a certain point then things will start becoming messy.
If you will spit your anger on everyone then sooner or later you will face the consequences of your actions. Let’s admit it you have to live with people, you have no plans of becoming an ascetic. So strive to understand the social dynamics and learn to work gracefully with people in your life.
- I do not get enough support
Another reason which makes people lose their temple is- they might not be getting enough support from their family and friends vis-à-vis the important decisions they have taken in their life.
If you are doing something significant then life will put hurdles in front of you perpetually. Thinking that everyone will support you in your endeavor is simply foolish.
Always remember a smooth sea never made a skilled sailor. So if you want to become a skilled sailor then you must have the courage to face the volatile sea.
A few days ago I wrote a poem- Love, applauds, and abuses. In this poem, I have expressed the price that I have paid and will pay for listening to my heart. Read the poem after that we’ll continue our discussion on anger management.
Love, Applauds, and Abuses
Love so sweet that it melted my heart utterly.
The future will bring love, applauds, and abuses.
This concoction has had been the price of choosing to listen to my heart.
I am not someone who dreams of comforts in life.
A fulfilled life is what I want.
My book Poetic Plunge is a collection of my 51 best poems. You will learn a lot about love, relationship, and life through this book. It is full of wisdom and valuable insights.
This is the most common reason which makes people lose their temper. If you will not do the right things in time then it is even capable of taking you in bonkers. I am talking about- Attachment.
In most of the Indian languages, there is a single word for attachment and shackles. In addition to that, attachment is considered as a sin in Hindu culture. Why?
Let’s understand this in a proper context. Attachment means you are dependent on someone for your happiness. Only when a particular person will do a particular thing in a particular way then only you will be satisfied. This is an unrealistic expectation. Even if you are dealing with God then also you will not be satisfied, if you have such expectations.
No human being can fulfill this excluding the one you see every day in the mirror. Look if you are dependent on other people for your happiness and mental stability then believe me sooner or later you will go in bonkers. They may be use spouse, parents, children, friends or anyone else no one is capable of fulfilling such expectations.
This article was on the topic of anger management. I hope you find it helpful in realizing a lot of things about yourself.
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